It is much easier for a person with good manners in modern society – each of us will surely agree with this statement. But, unfortunately, it is impossible to take a course in good manners in adulthood – they should be learned as early as childhood. And the first teachers of good manners for your child should be his parents or those who surround him. After all, how nice it is for parents to hear from acquaintances and friends the words that they have a well-bred child! But not all adults know how to properly teach a child good manners, and make mistakes. Therefore, let’s analyze this issue in more detail, and thereby help young mothers and fathers not to commit them.
If a child was born in a family of educated people, then it will not be difficult for parents to raise a educated person out of him – from the first years of his life, the baby hears their cultural speech and sees the manners of his educated parents. So if you want to instill good manners to your heir, show your upbringing everywhere – say “thank you” and “please”, wish your relatives “good night” and meet them in the morning with the words “good morning”. So unobtrusively you will teach a child to good manners with your own example.
If you want to grow a well -mannered person, then you do not even need to talk in high colors in the presence of the baby, thinking that he is still small and does not understand anything. Remember that even if a child, by virtue of his age, does not yet understand your words, he understands your intonation, facial expressions and gestures.
When your baby is two years old, he can already and should thank the treats, greet or politely ask for something. But if he does not always do this, do not scold your offspring – he is still too small and may sometimes just forget about politeness. It will be better if you tactfully remind your child that he forgot to say “thank you” or say hello, how to start scolding or punishing him. A baby of this age, on the contrary, must be praised for each manifestation of politeness and for his good manners and actions. And, of course, one should not forget to thank the child for his help to you, even the most minimum.
Children over three years old should already know and be able to behave at the table, use cutlery, dress independently and fulfill all personal hygiene rules. Naturally, they will be able to all this only if parents teach them this. If, for example, dad blurs at the table, and mom after lunch wipes his mouth with a kitchen towel, then the child will not be trained in good manners.
Many parents have high hopes that their heir will be trained in kindergarten good manners. Of course, educators will try to instill them in your baby, but, as a rule, they do it in an ultimatum form. Be prepared for the fact that, having heard in the kindergarten of the shouts “Do not stoop!”,” Do not put the elbows on the table!”,” Don’t champ!”Or” quickly straighten your back “, your baby, on the contrary, will begin to show you his rejection of good manners and will do the opposite.
Do not punish the child for such behavior, but just talk to him. Tell him not only that it is bad to behave the way he behaves. Explain to the child why this is bad, and what consequences his bad manners can lead him to. Be prepared for the fact that, most likely, you will need to conduct several such conversations with your child in order to correct the current situation.
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